Once there was a very handsome, pious, well educated young man, whose
parents emphasized for him to get married. they had seen so many
marriage proposals, and he had turned them all down. The parents thought
it was becoming a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have
someone else in mind.
However every time the parents left the girls house, the young man would always say 'she's not the one!'
The
young man only wanted a girl who was religious and practicing, however
one evening his mother arranged for him, to meet a girl, who was
religious, and practicing.
On that evening, the young man, and girl, were left to talk, and ask each other questions. (As one would expect).
The young man, being a gentleman that he was allowed, the lady to ask first.
The
young girl asked the young man so many questions, she asked about his
life, his education, his friends, his family, his habits, his hobbies,
his lifestyle, his enjoyment, his pastimes and his experiences.
The
young man replied to all of her questions, without tiring, and
politely, with a smile the young girl took up nearly all of the time,
over an hour, and felt bad, and asked the young man do you have any
questions?
The young man said, it's ok. I only have 3 questions...
The young girl thought, wow, only 3 questions okay, shoot.
The young man's first question was,
Who do you love the most in the world, someone who's love nothing would ever overcome?
She said, this is an easy question; my mother, he smiled
second question, he asked, you said that you read a lot of Qur'an, could you tell me which Surahs you know the meaning of?
Hearing this she went red and embarrassed and said, I do not know the
meaning of any yet, but I am hoping to soon insha'allah I've just been a bit busy.
The
third question the young man asked, was I have been approached for my
hand in marriage, by girls that are a lot more prettier than you, why
should I marry you?
Hearing this the young girl was outraged, she
stormed off to her parents with fury, and said I do not want to marry
this man he is insulting my beauty and intelligence.
And the young man and his parents, were once again, left without an agreement of marriage.
This
time, the young mans parents were really angry, and said what did you
do to anger that girl, the family were so nice, and pleasant and they
were religious like you wanted. What did you ask the girl?? Tell us!
The young man said, firstly I asked her, who do you love the most? she said, her mother,
The parents said so, what is wrong with that??
The young man said, 'no one, is Muslim, until he loves Allah, and his messenger (SWT) more than anyone else in the world'
If
a woman loves Allah and the Prophet (PBUH) more than anyone, she will
love me and respect me, and stay faithful to me, because of that love,
and fear for Allah (SWT). and we can share this love, because this love
is greater than lust for beauty.
The young man said, then I asked, you read a lot of Qur'an, can you tell me the meaning of any Surah?
And
she said no, because I haven't had time yet. so I thought of that
hadith 'ALL humans, are dead except for those who have knowledge'
She
has lived 20 years and not found ANY time, to seek knowledge, why would
I marry a woman, who does not know her rights, and responsibilities,
and what will she teach my children, except how to be negligent, because
the woman IS the madrasa (school) and the best of teachers.
And a woman who has no time for Allah, will not have time for her husband.
The
third question I asked her was, that a lot of girls, more prettier than
her, had approached me for marriage, why should I choose you?
That is why she stormed off, getting angry.
The
young man's parents said that is a horrible thing to say, why would you
do such a thing, we are going back there to apologize.
The young man said I said this on purpose, to test whether she could control her anger.
The
Prophet (SAW) said 'do not get angry, do not get angry, do not angry'
when asked how to become pious; because anger is from Satan.
If a
woman cannot control her anger with a stranger she has just met, do you
think she will be able to control it with her husband??
So, the moral of this story is, a marriage is based on,
knowledge, not looks,
practice, not preaching,
Forgiveness, not anger,
spiritual love, not lust.
and compromise
One should look for a person who
1) Has love for Allah (swt) and the messenger (saw)
2) Has knowledge of the deen, and can act upon it.
3) can control her anger and another important and crucial factor. that she be
4) willing to compromise.
And it goes both ways, so women seeking a man, should look for the same things.
Insha'allah,
may Allah make every marriage a success, and let us create Love for
Allah and his messenger(SAW) so that Allah can bless us, and create love
in our lives.
Our beloved prophet (may peace be upon him) said
There is no better structure founded in Islam other than marriage.
Source: Isalmicimformation.net
